Each day, when we wake up, we’re faced with a load of decisions to make.
Can I hit snooze one more time and still have time to do my make up?
What outfit am I going to wear to work?
Is it okay to use dry shampoo four days in a row?
Heels or flats? Heels or flats? Flats.
Should I use my cheat meal today or tomorrow? But there’s donuts today….
Of all the choices and decisions that we’re faced with, the most important ones start with ourselves.
Are you happy?
Are you gracious?
Are you thankful?
Are you forgiving?
Are you motivated?
Are you flourishing?
Are you surrounding yourself with people who support you, laugh with you, who show you grace, who take care of you and who genuinely love the crap out of you?
Are you choosing to be yourself?
I made a post on Sunday, that read something like:
That’s some real stuff right there. If each morning we’re waking up and we’re not choosing to be ourselves and live our lives then what we we doing to our happiness? If we’re constantly worried about the grass on the other side of the fence then how can we focus on watering our own? If we’re stuck in this endless tunnel of “oh em gee, I really hate my job and I don’t want to go to work today” then how do we expect to be motivated? Or if we’re constantly looking back at what so-and-so did to us a month ago, then how do we expect to be forgiving and show grace to others?
If you find yourself waking up choosing to be anything less that your perfectly made self or choosing to throw shade over sunshine, then isn’t it time for us to take a look at in the mirror and whip ourselves into shape?
Happiness is an inside job.
We have to wake up each morning with the conscious decision to choose happiness and to choose ourselves.
Confession: At least once a week, during my morning rituals I write:
ITF: Getting to be me and having this life.
Why? Because I’m the only person in this world who has my group of friends that stand by me regardless if there’s sunshine or clouds. I’m the only person in this world who gets to share so much laughter, adventures and feel love from my boyfriend. I’m the only person in the world who has my job and my relationship with the people that I’ve met throughout my career. I get to have the most supportive and funny and loving family. I get to wake up every day and bust my butt at the gym and see all my hard work pay off. I get to laugh until I cry, almost every day. I have people who genuinely care about me. A place that is mine. Puppies. And a thousand other reasons and experiences that make being me ah-may-zing.
Confession #2: Sometimes I struggle with this. Some days I wake up feeling stuck or like I’m not moving forward. Or I’m not motivating myself (because that’s an inside job, too). And when this happens (disclaimer: I believe in God but I don’t expect you to, if that’s your choice, but hopefully you do trust in the Universe or some supreme super-power-like thing) I have to calmly remind myself that there is a bigger plan and that God is working on my heart and the intentions that fill my soul. And I count on Him to help me through the days when I’m not super happy or gracious or forgiving or motivated.
Ask yourself out loud: Am I choosing to be me? Am I choosing happiness? Am I choosing to be thankful?
I hope that your answer to each of those was a firm yes. Because when you choose yourself and you realize that you are enough and you have been given every tool and power to make you a happy and successful human, that’s when the sunshine will be most apparent in your life.
If you answer was no, don’t give up. Know that the Universe is working for you and there’s a plan for each of us. We were brought here to flourish and be happy. Meditate. Write your thoughts in a notebook. Wake up tomorrow and choose yourself. And choose to see the sunshine amidst what might feel like a storm. Most importantly, don’t give up on yourself. There’s always sunshine, if that’s what you choose to see.